How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, Continue reading
The technique is intended for diagnostics of interaction between parents and children. The questionnaire allows us to determine not only the evaluation of one party — the parents, but also the vision of interaction with the other side — from the position of children.
Description of the method
Questionnaire “Interaction parent – child” is a “mirror” and contains two parallel forms: for parents and for children. In addition, there are two versions of the questionnaire:
Option for Teens and their parents;
Option for parents of preschool children and Junior pupils.
Thus, the questionnaire has three forms: one baby and two adults, 60 questions each.
The text of the questionnaire includes 10 scales – criteria to assess the interaction of parents with children. For each scale version of the questionnaire for adolescents have equal number of questions, except for two, which allocates the majority of researchers, and which can be considered basic in the parent-child relationship. This is the scale “autonomy-control” and “rejection-acceptance”, was composed of 10 statements, and in the rest of the scale — 5 claims. Continue reading
All parents encounter situations when neither confrontation, nor to changes in the environment do not affect the behavior of their child; the child continues to do what is not convenient for parents. Parents have the feeling that they raise a little mess, especially as relatives and neighbours do not miss a chance to declare that their child gets the education that he is too spoiled and such arrogance and selfishness to anything good will not. Parents always most afraid not to be good in the role of caregivers, who has raised a child to be a real man! This is the main parent complex, which encourages them to go to extremes, just not to lose the reputation of a good parent.
First, we note the main disturbing element. Parents believe that in a happy family should not be conflict, and therefore, if he is — this is an unfavorable sign. Hence the keen desire to quickly suppress the revolt by violent means, that all was covered over. The reality is otherwise. Continue reading