How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, Continue reading
All parents encounter situations when neither confrontation, nor to changes in the environment do not affect the behavior of their child; the child continues to do what is not convenient for parents. Parents have the feeling that they raise a little mess, especially as relatives and neighbours do not miss a chance to declare that their child gets the education that he is too spoiled and such arrogance and selfishness to anything good will not. Parents always most afraid not to be good in the role of caregivers, who has raised a child to be a real man! This is the main parent complex, which encourages them to go to extremes, just not to lose the reputation of a good parent.
First, we note the main disturbing element. Parents believe that in a happy family should not be conflict, and therefore, if he is — this is an unfavorable sign. Hence the keen desire to quickly suppress the revolt by violent means, that all was covered over. The reality is otherwise. Continue reading
the Consequences of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families. The family influence on the child’s upbringing.
In ancient Greece Plato, following Socrates, claimed: “All the evil of the world, the selfishness of people, their class inequality grows primarily from the existence of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families.
Immoderate love of parents to their own child begets greed, and other properties, exposing people that generate enmity between them. Subsequent philosophers and teachers not paid attention to this issue, though I rated it differently.
The harmonic development of the personality is impossible without family care, which should be combined and supported by public. Now psychologists and doctors say that even a few months of deprivation of love applied to mental, moral and emotional development of the child irreparable harm, all subsequent spiritual life, negatively affect mental and physical development.
Creating spiritual and emotional foundations of personality and have a purpose, and sense of family upbringing. Without parental love, the thing known, the child living in the father and the mother is an orphan. Continue reading