How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, Continue reading
All parents encounter situations when neither confrontation, nor to changes in the environment do not affect the behavior of their child; the child continues to do what is not convenient for parents. Parents have the feeling that they raise a little mess, especially as relatives and neighbours do not miss a chance to declare that their child gets the education that he is too spoiled and such arrogance and selfishness to anything good will not. Parents always most afraid not to be good in the role of caregivers, who has raised a child to be a real man! This is the main parent complex, which encourages them to go to extremes, just not to lose the reputation of a good parent.
First, we note the main disturbing element. Parents believe that in a happy family should not be conflict, and therefore, if he is — this is an unfavorable sign. Hence the keen desire to quickly suppress the revolt by violent means, that all was covered over. The reality is otherwise. Continue reading
1. Teach your son to put into words what he feels.
The kid can scream in frustration, to hide from embarrassment, biting excitement and crying from fear. Explain to him that it is emotions that tell the body how to behave. Show him other people who feel the same, but Express their emotions differently. Talk with your child about your own emotions. When he one day will grow, you will know the difference between rage and embarrassment, disappointment and grief, and learn to cope with their emotions and Express them intelligently, without shame and without guilt.
2. Be the biggest fan of his child.
Most likely, you will confuse your son that will start to sing his high school rock band on a family holiday or will show his baby pictures girls, to collect the most stupid (it is, of course, opinion) certificates, awards and achievements, writing in his blog that he had problems in school and so on. Most likely, he will say: “come on, mom, stop!”. He will blush, but know that there is at least one person who ALWAYS roots for him.
3. Teach your son to clean up after themselves, cook, wash socks and ironed shirts.
Maybe he’ll never come in handy, but one day his wife will be grateful to you.
4. Read to him and with him.
Children become readers on the lap of their Continue reading