How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, Continue reading
the Consequences of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families. The family influence on the child’s upbringing.
In ancient Greece Plato, following Socrates, claimed: “All the evil of the world, the selfishness of people, their class inequality grows primarily from the existence of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families.
Immoderate love of parents to their own child begets greed, and other properties, exposing people that generate enmity between them. Subsequent philosophers and teachers not paid attention to this issue, though I rated it differently.
The harmonic development of the personality is impossible without family care, which should be combined and supported by public. Now psychologists and doctors say that even a few months of deprivation of love applied to mental, moral and emotional development of the child irreparable harm, all subsequent spiritual life, negatively affect mental and physical development.
Creating spiritual and emotional foundations of personality and have a purpose, and sense of family upbringing. Without parental love, the thing known, the child living in the father and the mother is an orphan. Continue reading
There is a widespread belief that the Country of the rising sun to 7 years children almost nothing is forbidden, so as not to harm the development of your child’s individuality. But to raise a child in Japanese – this does not mean to indulge him in everything. Local families a very strong tradition, people used to respect their elders and obey them. And children, despite the apparent permissiveness, behave tolerably well.
Strictly speaking, in Japanese, Spartan, Spock or something else – no matter. Will you choose a specific education system or maybe invent your own, one goal – to teach the baby to live independently in society. The child was stable psyche (and the whims – just a manifestation of instability), no need to rush from one extreme to the other extreme: today, everything is possible and tomorrow method of education is changing on almost a barracks. Our article – not on how to make something the way you want, and how to agree!
«I will Not eat!”
Whims at the table are like a red thread through many family stories. For example, the baby gets used to the bottle and refuses to eat with a spoon or drink from a Cup. This is not a problem: you need to feed your baby when eaten with other family members – will develop a stereotype of behavior. With time everything will fall into place – Continue reading