How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others that they wish the child well, Continue reading
All parents encounter situations when neither confrontation, nor to changes in the environment do not affect the behavior of their child; the child continues to do what is not convenient for parents. Parents have the feeling that they raise a little mess, especially as relatives and neighbours do not miss a chance to declare that their child gets the education that he is too spoiled and such arrogance and selfishness to anything good will not. Parents always most afraid not to be good in the role of caregivers, who has raised a child to be a real man! This is the main parent complex, which encourages them to go to extremes, just not to lose the reputation of a good parent.
First, we note the main disturbing element. Parents believe that in a happy family should not be conflict, and therefore, if he is — this is an unfavorable sign. Hence the keen desire to quickly suppress the revolt by violent means, that all was covered over. The reality is otherwise. Continue reading
There is a widespread belief that the Country of the rising sun to 7 years children almost nothing is forbidden, so as not to harm the development of your child’s individuality. But to raise a child in Japanese – this does not mean to indulge him in everything. Local families a very strong tradition, people used to respect their elders and obey them. And children, despite the apparent permissiveness, behave tolerably well.
Strictly speaking, in Japanese, Spartan, Spock or something else – no matter. Will you choose a specific education system or maybe invent your own, one goal – to teach the baby to live independently in society. The child was stable psyche (and the whims – just a manifestation of instability), no need to rush from one extreme to the other extreme: today, everything is possible and tomorrow method of education is changing on almost a barracks. Our article – not on how to make something the way you want, and how to agree!
«I will Not eat!”
Whims at the table are like a red thread through many family stories. For example, the baby gets used to the bottle and refuses to eat with a spoon or drink from a Cup. This is not a problem: you need to feed your baby when eaten with other family members – will develop a stereotype of behavior. With time everything will fall into place – Continue reading