A Husband or children. Who in the first place?
Today I will reveal you the secret of a happy wife. The secret is very simple: the husband in a woman’s life is in the first place.
Unfortunately, women with this secret do not own or know nothing about him, so not very many people manage to build a happy relationship with her husband.
Quarrels replace scandals. This ends the alienation at best, and at worst ” divorce.
Why there are problems in the family? Because that woman wrong priorities. Today women are torn between children, work, career, home, their parents, the expectation that the husband will understand employment and appreciate women’s efforts, and her husband not only do not appreciate, but also offended and spoils our life, which we’ve arranged.
Every woman dreams to have a happy family, a loving husband, children, beautiful, cozy house, and at some point we women, put the very idea of the family in the first place, and the husband becomes merely a means by which we achieve this goal.
We get married and have children, educate them, encourage them in a thousand circles, working for the good of our family, are all in the house and at some point forget about the husband, he is lost somewhere among our plans and goals to create a happy family. And sometimes even interfere when expressing his displeasure.
And some even forget about the husband once married.
Perhaps all of this comes from our immaturity. Let’s remember how the girls play in the family. There is a house, there is doll-children. We cook and clean the house. Perhaps we go to the same girl-mothers to visit with their dolls. But, where’s the husband? In games don’t have one. And furthermore, there are no problems with building relationships, quarrels and our work, aiming to create a happy family. It seems that everything is easy and simple.
Then the girl grows, genetically inherent desire to create a family is implemented in life. Naturally with men.
Because children ’ s not a doll, without men, they will not appear. And man becomes the means of achieving that childhood dream. Merely a means. Isn’t that why we face in our adult life as a married woman with so many problems and misunderstanding? And it happens that in life the woman is still “play dolls», not realizing that the man – the centre for women, it – its purpose, its king, and that nothing is more important than husband and their love as a couple.
Very often, problems in the family begins with the birth of children. I have these stories heard from childhood that men – selfish, that they’re jealous of the children that they need a lot of attention. Have you heard that?
And this is because there is a widespread belief that the main task and the main purpose of women – to bear children. Motherhood is given great attention. And all the energy and all the feelings women are pulled together there.
But the relationship between husband and wife are minor and forgotten. But is it possible to have a happy mothers and happy children, when the wife forgot about her husband and all their attention, love gives children? Isn’t that why some men are bad fathers?
Many men did not notice the children, someone starts drinking, walking, and some even leave their families.
Becoming a mother, the woman, too, somewhere is acting out of selfish motives, directing attention only to the child: “This is mine, it’s not going anywhere, will not betray, will not leave”. And with it (with a man) still need to build something, to agree… All this so very difficult. Women justify themselves, saying “I’m not a woman. I am a mother”. But being a mother and a woman – are two different things.
Did you know that becoming a mother, the woman includes in sevemezsin energy? She cares, controls, feeds, protects, protects. And the man feels he is losing his woman, and therefore rebelled, and sometimes leaves. But if not revoked, it becomes a child. And the woman with all the force begins to care about him. More about it here.
We women, with their hands create competition between the child and his father. Often the child is “trigger” to the collapse of the family. Because a woman decides that now in her life is important – children. What to do man? Jealous, get angry or give up.
I used to not understand why a father is jealous of his wife to her own child. Got it now. The woman, as I said, choose a reliable object of love, that ’s not betray”, “not go”, thereby denying a man the right to his love. You know?
Any man wants a woman was a good and caring mother, but no man wants to get lost amongst the fulfillment of our sacred duty and as a means of attaining our well-being.
It is unlikely that the children would mind if you put their dad in the first place. “the happiest moments for children – those are the moments when kids see parents in a couple. Then they are really happy and calm”. Bert Hellinger.
Partnerships have the advantage over motherhood, because for a real woman a man should always come first, as she realizes that the woman she can only be with a man. Without a man she is not a woman. This is perhaps the most important conclusion for any woman.
As I wrote, all problems come from fear, mistrust, misunderstanding my female nature. To put a man in the first place? Scary! So the woman in the first place after children often goes work, career, and personal achievements. And it takes a huge amount of energy, such a woman, coming home, too, wants her met “wife”, not asking too many questions, not tipped. Is this possible? No.
And we come back to femininity. And scary, and it is unclear how, and terribly difficult, but in this direction we must move. Only a woman is able to realize their opposite nature, man is the essence of accepting their feminine strength, able without fear to understand wholeheartedly why a man should stand in first place in its system of values. You and your partner, your relationship take first and second place, children get the third place.
And then all of a repeated and hackneyed adage that we can give to your children what you have makes sense. We can provide a complete real family, love and respect for each other, security and peace of mind.
Children need happy parents, and they don’t need the “economic marriage” saved for them. Children feel things very subtly. And the output is not to leave or to stay married for the kids. And the output of that woman first needs to realize that it ’ s not just playing with dolls and that her “house” has a real, live man, and she should be a woman.