The Effects of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families.
the Consequences of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families. The family influence on the child’s upbringing.
In ancient Greece Plato, following Socrates, claimed: “All the evil of the world, the selfishness of people, their class inequality grows primarily from the existence of unequal conditions of upbringing of children in families.
Immoderate love of parents to their own child begets greed, and other properties, exposing people that generate enmity between them. Subsequent philosophers and teachers not paid attention to this issue, though I rated it differently.
The harmonic development of the personality is impossible without family care, which should be combined and supported by public. Now psychologists and doctors say that even a few months of deprivation of love applied to mental, moral and emotional development of the child irreparable harm, all subsequent spiritual life, negatively affect mental and physical development.
Creating spiritual and emotional foundations of personality and have a purpose, and sense of family upbringing. Without parental love, the thing known, the child living in the father and the mother is an orphan. But he does not care and their relationships to each other. Here is the opinion of the doctor of pedagogical Sciences V. I. Kochetkova: “the Love of parents to each other can be a major educational factor influencing a child. When the mother and father love each other, their love child receives. Without it, the whole world fades, and no pedagogical measures can not fill its impact on the child”. V. A. Sukhomlinsky believed that to teach a child to love, is to teach the most important in life.
Styles of family education. What is happening in our country, political updates spiritual life is important because it puts people at the centre of politics and Economics, returns to universal values priority status. This happens in public and individual consciousness.
Rethinking nature and destiny of man awakens psychologists and educators to reconsider the habitual patterns of thinking, traditional approaches.
Like all of society, family and school have long endured the burden of authoritarianism and dogmatism. Today humanization of relationships within the school are as relevant as the relationship of family and school.
One of the most serious challenges in the way of finding a productive contact between the family and school is the plurality, the need to adopt a different way of thinking and way of life, for teachers and for parents. This can be difficult, however, without constructive dialogue, the cooperation between them is not possible.
To help parents experiencing difficulties in the upbringing of children, teachers, social workers need to understand what exactly they want to educate their children, what tools I use, that is, to understand their setting.
Different attitudes of parents are reflected in the styles of family education.
Under the style of family education psychologists and social pedagogues mean those aspects of the impact of adults on children who are in the greatest influence on the mental development of the child and the development of his personality: the attitude of parents to the child, the nature of control over his actions, method claims, the form of rewards and punishments.
Parents who give their children some independence, treat them with warmth and respect, apply a minimum punishment, often give their children to regulate their behaviour is democratic parents.
They are raising socially adapted, independent children, active, creative, able to cooperate with other children. Authoritarian parents demand that children unconditional obedience, compliance, submission to tradition and authority. If authoritarianism combined with the indifference of parents, it causes children’s desire for self-assertion, aggression, conflict. Such children have a hard time adapting to the new conditions.
Parents who treat their children with warmth, but you control every step, watch over them, grow dependent, indecisive, aloof, childish, self-centered children.
If parents are indifferent to the children, not give them no heat, no attention, no control, such children may have a serious breach of conduct until the wrongful action. Among young offenders, many children, whose position in the family can be described as neglected.