the First in this year meeting of the club of foster parents and adoptive parents, organized by the Department of social projects that was, as they say, with a Bang. In the wording of the site on 4 February it was not crowded – the event brought together more than 30 people. They shared with each other and psychologist Chelyabinsk crisis center Inna Lapshina their fears and doubts, which was devoted to the topic of conversation.
“At a meeting of the club foster parent for the first time so many people came: I started the project with just six families. – admitted the Director for social projects site. – Of course, we expected it to be a sell-out, as we receive many calls from those who want. We are very happy because the guys got more potential parents.”
Six families of newcomers who came to the meeting already collect the paperwork to take the child from the orphanage. Ten pairs just wondering, are prepared to commit so serious in my life step. Doubt, as it turned out, all similar. About your fears with the club members shared their foster mom with experience Olga .
“I am the mother of a loner, so it was scary and hard to dip one in this thread was not the Club’s adoptive parents,” recalls Olga.
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Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way. This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they cause him protest and additional internal stress. If a man has nothing against men crying, he own tears indifferent as to any discharge of fluid from the body.
In male culture, crying is not accepted as good people. – Mat. Crying is just the result of habit. Of course, if it’s a habit developed from early childhood, crying seems natural and inevitable, but in cultures where the weeping Continue reading
I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong.